Being grateful

It’s been a couple of weeks since I posted any thoughts or pictures or anything fun on this Commonplace Book I call my blog.

Unfortunately, I spent most of that time feeling pretty ill and being very under the weather.  I talked about being diagnosed with diabetes here, but thankfully that’s been under control nicely from diet and exercise.  The reason they found the diabetes though, back in April, was because for months I’ve been having issues with my breathing – my lungs keep shutting down, and none of the doctors are quite sure what the deal is yet.  SO – while doing tests to figure that out they found out I had diabetes.  As I said, I’m glad that I’ve been able to keep the diabetes in check, but the up and down roller coaster of recurring coughing/wheezing episodes has proven to be a bigger challenge.  A big recurrence of that about 2 weeks ago hit me hard, and slowed down everything in my life EXCEPT the doctor visits!  🙂

I’m doing better now, and we’ve got another, hopefully solid, plan to combat it.  Time will tell, and we’ll continue moving forward.

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The thing for me, though, and the reason I’m writing this post today, is because it really has been a couple weeks of being reminded how much I have to be grateful for.  My wife, who is the strongest most supportive amazing woman ever.  My kids, who are the best.  My co-workers, who picked up the slack and said “Stay home and get better” and made my life so much easier.  My brother and sister who made me laugh the whole time, and my folks who have been  super supportive.  Health insurance, which has made this easier (although it’s amazing how you think “Oh, we’ve got insurance” and then still wind up paying thousands of dollars for things. I’m not going  to get into a Universal HealthCare rant here, though! I’m grateful it hasn’t cost us more.)

So, other things I realized that I’m grateful for:  Heating pads.  Cool washcloths on foreheads.  Good music.  Soup.  Tylenol with codeine.

Something I’m still LOOKING FOR to be grateful about: A replacement for coffee.  I am done drinking coffee, have obviously eliminated (or greatly trimmed) sugar from my life, and am avoiding artificial sweeteners.  So, I haven’t found a warm drink like tea with a flavor that I like unsweetened yet.

Ah, now I’m off and rambling.  Things are looking up, health is on the mend, my family is fabulous, the theatre is launching into Season 8 and it’s going to be terrific.

So, thanks to those of you who’ve already heard some of this and sent “Feel better” wishes – I am – and today my blog post is a simple request:

Look around.  Take note of things you’re grateful for, and take a second to appreciate them.

Happy Monday, y’all!

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Lessons, my season in review.

So the 2013-2014 Season has officially ended, and it was pretty satisfying for me as both a director and as a producer.  Along with producing, I had the chance to direct 5 shows at various places this year:  A remount of Ernie, the post-apocalyptic love romance adventure boom, the heart-wrenching Sweet Mercy about Rwanda, the gorgeous and funny End Days, and the world premiere of the terrific 10:53.   I’ve been organizing my desk and office, putting away old notebooks, clearing the remains of this season away and preparing for the next one, and it’s been fun.  Lots of reminders of lessons both learned and RE-learned.  Lots of stuff I did right, lots of things I did wrong, and lots of things that may take time to figure out which category to put in!

*Having fish onstage can be a fun but distracting choice.

*Make sure, as a director, you get everyone on board about What The Story Is About.  Once you do, just remind them to check in on that with every decision.  Then let them do their thing and see where it goes – that’s one of the fun parts!  (Well, *I* think it’s one of the fun parts!)

*My kids will never, as long as they live in my house, be too old for me to wake up in the middle of the night and hug.  Especially when I’m directing a show about something like the Rwandan genocide.  Hell, we’ll see what the future holds – ten years from now I may be driving to their houses after rehearsal to wake them up and hug them anyway.

*Do your job.  Let others do theirs.  If you’re not getting what you want, chat with them.  Don’t jump in and do it.  (Or, if you have to jump in and do it, be sure to talk about WHY with them, because just doing it and not explaining it is kind of a dick move.)  Made this mistake this year, regretted it.

*Keep It Simple.  Man, this one comes back every time.  What’s the story about?  Tell that.  Got the opportunity to add bells and whistles?  Neat.  Do they HELP?  Do they CLARIFY?  Do they make us CARE and CONNECT?  Do they move us viscerally?  If so, YES.  If not – rethink.

*Not everyone will agree with every choice… AND THAT’S OKAY.  This was, is, a frequently re-learned lesson by me.  Listen, I don’t mind admitting that I’m just as egotistical as everyone else.  Probably more.  When I like something, the idea that someone else doesn’t can be both baffling and offensive to me.  The challenge is to not take any of that criticism personally.  This is a thing with me because, well, I’m Italian and Scottish and if I feel I’m being wronged my impulse is to launch myself on top of people shouting “I don’t care, you SUCK, eat a bag of D!@K $!!” in a full out Berserker rage.  Not surprisingly, over 22 years or so in my career, I keep learning that this is not the best response.   The proper response, of course, is to pack away the ego and shut up, and realize that most everyone cares about their stuff as much as you care about yours, and different ideas can and SHOULD co-exist so, seriously, shut up and appreciate the differences in the world.  This year I had one instance of berserker rage that I really really regretted, and then several moments of shutting up that made me think I may at some point be comfortable calling myself a grown-up.   (Not eager to do it, mind you, but comfortable.)  The lesson of co-existing ideas really was spelled out nicely for me this year, though.  In fact, see below…

*Lesson from the gorgeous play End Days: Different ideas can and should co-exist. The play was about religions, lifestyles, but it can and should relate to everything.  Everything.  Do your thing, and shut up just because someone else wants to do theirs.  This was a good lesson for me this year.

*Mosquito netting can look REALLY amazing onstage.  (Nice choice Milly Parker!)

*Coolest effect all year: A simple bit of dust falling from the ceiling when, in the story, the upper stories of a building collapsed onto the ceiling of the set.  A little bit of talcum powder in a tiny tube, a crew person backstage blows in the end of the tube and the powder falls through the shaft of light as the sound effect of the crumbling building echoes.  Simple, gorgeous, and always got a great reaction from the audience.  (Nice choice Janine Woods Thoma!)

*Transitions.  Lots of plays are episodic and need scene breaks.  Don’t forget – if you give the audience a minute to drop out, they will.  So use every opportunity to tell the story, even if that means inventing the story between scenes.  Sometimes you need actors to change costumes.  What happens in the world of the play while they’re gone?  If the choice is between “Sit in black and listen to music while actor changes costumes offstage” or “Explore what happens in the world of the play while the characters are offstage, and do something to support the play until the actors can come back on”, choose b. Just make sure it’s not contradicting the “Keep It Simple” rule!

*Talk with actors.  Simple direction.  One of the best moments all year:  Working with a fabulous actor, I said “It feels like you’re getting really worked up, I think it’s just a simpler conversation.”  She said “Yeah it does!  Why am I all freakin’ out?!” – and that was all it took, she took that scene and it became one of the most simple, moving beautiful moments we had all year.  I have to remind myself of this on exactly EVERY show.  I’m chatty, I’m Italian, I’m a storyteller, and I need to shut the hell up and give simpler direction and stay out of the way.  In years past (and at moments this season), I could’ve made that direction go on forever as I got deep into examples and analogies and what we’re feeling as an audience and blahblahblahpleasegodmakehimstoptalking.

*You can tell the coolest, most fabulous story, and some people will still want nothing more complicated than an episode of “Everybody Loves Raymond”.  You know what, that’s fine, I like that sometimes too.  But don’t forget, for every person who wants JUST that, there is another person who NEVER wants that, and a person who wants that today, but something more substantive tomorrow.  You can’t please everyone every time, but getting them to trust that coming to see EVERYTHING is worthwhile – that’s the goal.  To keep a small professional theatre going, you need to create that relationship with a couple thousand people who say “You know what, we’ll see every production this season.  Two out of six may not be the kind of show we normally like, but we trust this company enough to tell us well done stories, so we’ll support them.”   And then, in turn, you need to follow through and make EVERY MOMENT engaging and committed and professional and follow through on your obligation, because those people are your patrons.  They’re why you’re making theatre.  Respect them.  Take that journey together, or get a different job.

Monday: A Pic Post Of Good Things

Random moments from the life of a Dad, Artistic Director, and Geek.

Sometimes your daughter gets old enough to drive a car.

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And then you’re like

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But then you get to do some light reading for work:

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And you’re reminded

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And the truth in that quote hits you like

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And you think “There are a heck of a lot of wonderful things in my life”. Such as this renovation of the seating banks at Williamston Theatre:
From this…

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In other good news, the Chelsea Community Fair was this weekend, and we had a blast. Along with rides and junk food and demolition derbies, we got to see this pig and her brand new piglets. Adorable, and now we’re fighting the urge to get a pig.

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And, lastly, I’m excited to announce a new freelance gig – this Fall my pal Joe and I will be hosting a show on the TV Talk Network. TV Talk is a company that produces short-form talk shows discussing today’s favorite television entertainment. Joe and I will be hosting TV Talk: Hostages, a show about the new CBS series “Hostages”! Check out the details and download the free app at TV Talk – join us, it’ll be a ton of fun!

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Another Milestone

We completed our 7th Season at Williamston Theatre on Sunday!

Over 7 years and 42 productions ago, I wrote this post!

It’s amazing how that all seems like it was BOTH yesterday, and a million years ago!

Now, we continue moving forward:

  • There are construction workers downstairs beginning renovations to our seating risers, and construction on a new entrance into the theatre from the back of the house, so we can finally bring actors in from all 4 corners of the room!
  • In addition, season 7 was our most profitable and well-attended season yet.
  • In a couple of weeks we have our Season Launch Party for Season 8!
  • This weekend the Lansing City Pulse had their theatre awards ceremony, where WT won 9 Pulsar awards!
  • We also won several awards from the Lansing State Journal, and are nominated for several by the Rogue Critic
  • Tonight we’ll be attending the Wilde Awards, the state-wide theatre award ceremony, where WT is nominated for 10 awards! Whether we win or lose in any of these awards isn’t really the point, it’s nice to be nominated and to be in the company of some of the finest artists in the state.

All in all – it’s been a pretty great 7 seasons, and we’re incredibly grateful to everyone who had a part in getting us where we are: Donors, audiences, volunteers, actors, designers, directors, writers, crew…  we’re very lucky to have the support of so many wonderful people.

So, a couple of weeks for renovations, planning and preparation, and then it’s time to start rehearsals for another show!

First, though, first I’m going to take a sec and look back at these last seven years, and enjoy the view.  Lots of good things, lots of mistakes, lots of lessons, lots of good theatre, and lots of wonderful people.  Thank you, everyone who was involved, for everything you’ve done!

 

 

Quotes: Negativity and Naysayers

Sometimes the voices of negativity get so ridiculously loud.  I’m always amazed at people who seem to revel in being obstructive instead of productive.  Amazed and annoyed.  With positivity comes forward motion.  With negativity comes stagnancy and death.  I would much rather try something in an attempt to grow, and have it fail miserably, than sit back and whine in a corner pointing and blaming everyone else for the state of my world.

People tend to be generous when sharing their nonsense, fear, and ignorance. And while they seem quite eager to feed you their negativity, please be cautious with what you feed your mind and soul. Fuel yourself with positivity and let that fuel propel you into positive action.
-Steve Maraboli

Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.
-Albert Einstein

The person who says it cannot be done should not interrupt the person doing it.
-Chinese Proverb

When people undermine your dreams, predict your doom or criticize you, remember they are telling you THEIR story, not yours.
-Cynthia Occelli

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Anybody got a time machine I can borrow for… well, in theory a minute oughta do it…?

Today I got to run a regional theatre.

Every now and then, I get reminded of how freaking amazing that is.  Today was one of those days.

I woke up this morning, and I was a little sore from my long workout on the elliptical machine the night before, and a little sleepy, and another few minutes of sleep felt like a better plan than getting up, despite the buzzing of the alarm I’d set on my phone.  So, I hit “Snooze” on the screen of my iPhone… that worked for 3 minutes.  When it went off again, I held my finger over the snooze button for a second, but then grabbed my phone and silenced it.  I opened my calendar app (Sunrise) to look at the schedule of the day, and Evernote to check out The List (my name for my to-do list).  Most of the items on there were things like “Staged Reading rehearsal at 1”, and “Get production schedule to designers for the last few shows of next season” and “Read the 2 scripts on your desk” and “Call so-and-so about this project and that”.

As I lay there, thinking “Ow, my legs are sore” and “Maybe another 10 minutes of sleep”, I also started thinking about all the things I was going to get to do today.  And you know what?   Most of them sounded pretty darned great.

That’s when the reminder hit me.

Holy crap.  I get to run a regional theatre.  How did I get lucky enough to get this fabulous gig?

And that’s when I decided – I need to borrow a time machine for a few minutes.  There are a few times that I need to poke myself in the head… 22 year old me, 28 year old me, 35 year old me… I can think of a few moments when I want to just pop in and say “Dude.  Guess what I-you-we-did today?  Made some theatre.  At a theatre that you run with a great team of people.  It’s not all smooth sailing between here and there – not by a longshot, but there’s good people and good Guinness and good laughs to get you through the bullshit.  Remember this: Trust your gut and GO.  Don’t forget it!  The first time you get killed in a review, remember it.  That moment when you REALLY realize that not everyone has your best interests in mind, remember it.  And when it’s late and you’re tired and you’re talking with Jeanne about paths and kids and the future… remember.”    “(Also, remember Jeanne’s always right.)”

I dunno.  I’m not sure what I would’ve done if a chubbier, grayer version of myself showed up a dozen years ago with that kind of speech.  But when I think back on who I was then, with the fears and insecurities and giant questions I had about the world… and then I compare that to where my life is now…

I think the biggest thing I can take away from that is this:

Today I got to run a regional theatre.  I can’t WAIT to see what tomorrow brings.

Wednesday’s Random Good Things

RANDOM GOOD THINGS IN THE LIFE A DAD AND ARTISTIC DIRECTOR!

I love the cover of our new season brochure!

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(I’m actually really really excited about all of next season – for more on that, click here!)

Speaking of theatre, we’re poised to finish our season next week at WT, and it looks like it’ll be the most successful we’ve had yet! Add to that the nice number of awards our teams were nominated for this season, and it sure makes me proud of everyone in the WT family for their hard work and dedication.

In non-work news, Maggie and I had a wonderful time running the Warrior Dash again this year:

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We also, as a family, got to spend several days relaxing on the Thunder Bay river, visiting my parents. Did some fishing, some playing of board games, some tv and movie watching, catching up on some reading, and generally hanging out together. Perfect!

The Detroit Tigers are 21 games over .500 and leading their division by 5 games. I like this.

Fun TV Update: okay, so Falling Skies had a great season finale. Looking forward to that coming back next Summer. Also, I’m late to the party on this show, but HOLY COW Orphan Black is good!! Check it out, if you’ve not seen it: you won’t be disappointed. And there are some fun shows premiering this Fall… Now I’ve got to see if I’ve actually got time to watch them… 🙂

There are more good things… But now it’s time to relax for the night with my family… And that’s a pretty good thing too!

Happy Wednesday y’all!

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Friday Quotes: Storytelling

“Do they care?  That’s it.  That’s the only thing that ever matters.  Do they care?  Is it interesting, are the jokes funny, are the characters relatable, are the scary parts scary?  The more you do, the more you realize there’s only one thing you can do… we still have the same mandate, which is Make ‘em care”. 
-Joss Whedon

“Artists use lies to tell the truth. Yes, I created a lie. But because you believed it, you found something true about yourself.” 
-Alan Moore

“You can fix anything but a blank page.” 
-Nora Roberts

“Stories have to be told or they die, and when they die, we can’t remember who we are or why we’re here.” 
-Sue Monk Kidd

“It is your obligation to speak things that have truth, because this is your life’s work.”
-Judith Black

“Rule one of reading other people’s stories is that whenever you say ‘well that’s not convincing’ the author tells you that’s the bit that wasn’t made up. This is because real life is under no obligation to be convincing.”
-Neil Gaiman

Logos for next season!

Boy, it’s been a busy couple of weeks!  We got a show open at Williamston Theatre, I went to San Diego Comic Con, life has been good!

Here, just for fun, are the logos for the 2013-2014 Season at Williamston Theatre!  A couple may undergo minor tweaking, but this is the general look of the season, and I love it.  I am beyond excited about the lineup for next year – the scripts, the casts, the production teams  – so much goodness!

Woman In Black (option)

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